the ramblings of a chronic over thinker

accept that accepting might be hard…

i wish it was this easy… or maybe it is?

“Acceptance doesn't mean resignation or giving up; it means acknowledging reality and finding a way to work with it. It's about being present with your experience, even the difficult parts, without judgment.  Acceptance, in its core meaning, is the acknowledgement and consent to something, whether it be an idea, a situation, or an offer. In psychology, it often refers to recognizing and embracing a situation without resistance, even if it is painful or undesirable. This can involve acknowledging and allowing difficult emotions or circumstances to be present without trying to change or avoid them. “ -the internet, vis-à-vis, a bunch of smart humans

it starts with you

maybe not all of my readers know that this year, 2025, freshair lost four employees. for various reasons, the relationships built here at 542 A came to an end. it’s not easy dealing with issues, conflicts and situations, but it’s also, not hard? i don’t want to denigrate the fact that yes, operating a business with fewer service providers than needed to stay afloat is hard. it’s actually stressful, scary, pathetic, weird and downright annoying. but it is life. it is my life.

i have been in the beauty industry for over 25 years and i can say with honesty, that comes with heaps of acceptance. to be fair, i think that living life comes with acceptance. sometime last year while working on the course and going through the early stages of menopause (yeah, i said it. i’m 46. it’s real). i began to understand the process of acceptance. i am a person that likes to take control of the things i can. i have crazy discipline and i don’t break promises to myself (i used to in my younger days, now i make a point to make promises to myself i KNOW i can keep). all of this is accepting myself. i understand that i am a little tough. i have high standards, i love kindness, i love laughing, i love eating, i love staying in shape and feeling strong. i talk a lot, i love action films, i am uber curious and i love a good detail. i have accepted so many things about myself in the past 12 months and it’s funny how, even now when i am struggling to find hair stylists who want to work together, i am faced with acceptance.

since covid we have been looking to hire stylists and managed to get a few. due to the climate of the world right now, the odds are for sure against me and i feel it. but then what? what can i actually do? if no one applies to work and we can’t find a way to get more bodies in the chairs, i’ll need to accept the fact that my business isn’t able to run in the way it was originally intended to. that really sucks, but at the same time, this is life. my life. i accept it.

i am aware that this post is a little saddening, but it is the truth. i accept it. many things have transpired in the 15 years my shop opened till now. many things have changed. i have changed. it’s okay, i’m accepting it and i am moving on. i have so much other things going on in my life and my career is just one part. this job is a part of the totality of ME. feels good to share and if i can give y’all some advice on acceptance? start with accepting yourself, the good and the bad. this helps prepare you for the other stuff. like night sweats and pasty breath. it prepares you for bad news and unwanted attention. i am officially in my acceptance era, and it feels okay.

now i’m going to go outside, practice my ball handling and shooting (yes, i play basketball now 🙄). getting outside is actually great for accepting things, except when it’s smoky out, stay inside and accept indoors.

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-p

p.s.

i also love jokes! if you want to share some here, i accept! 😉