the fresh perspective...

Boys. And Girls... Relationships are the ultimate best!  They are the best until they are the worst!  Being in a relationship with someone has so many perks and, inevitably, pitfalls.

When you're in a committed relationship compromising makes up a large part of how long the relationship will last.  A relationship that doesn't have the two people involved in it, working towards the same goal, won't last.  I know this month is dedicated to the boys so I will say, "how are you to your partner?"  "Boys, do you treat them well?"  "Do you do your fair share of compromising?"  Just a little something to think about as you go on living in your couple-ness....  How can you make your relationship better?

I have been married for seven years and we have been together for 13 years.  All through my twenties we toiled and triumphed.  Through the student loans and apartment applications, we survived.  Through the entire wedding process we managed to stay.  We are still here.  We are still going.  In my modest opinion every anniversary should be celebrated because that's another year added.  Eventually those years should add up to an amazing relationship with someone special than most.

I know many ladies and gents in relationships that seem to have it all together.  The thing is, we all KNOW that there is no such thing as the perfect relationship or couple.  It just doesn't exist.  The most endearing relationships are forged in the trenches and use hard times as a foundation for their love.

I did say that I was posting about only boys this month, so this post goes out to my main squeeze.  Ogo, you are a great man even if sometimes you're not...?  ;)  That's the fresh perspective...

the fresh perspective...

LONG HAIRED BOYS Boys with hair.  Long hair.  What's your opinion on a long-haired style?  There are a few men out there that grow their hair and take very good care of it.  I, for one, love a man with long hair.  Especially if it's healthy, maintained and flattering to the host.

How many of you guys have tried to grow your hair?  Was it easy?  What did you like about it? Hated it?  Having more hair just means there's a bit more to take care of.  You need some more products and a little more time.

What about the top-knot?!  Boys, this is amazing!  If you're a long-haired boy, maybe this is something you should try.  It's very easy and a great way to keep your hair out of the way.  I think it's unfair that long hair on men is looked down upon.  It's not JUST for the girls.  It's just hair and if a boy wants it super long, that shouldn't make him less of a man.  It's just hair, long hair...

Like I always say, and will say till I can no longer speak, "there's nothing wrong with trying something new."  Maybe your hair would look great long?  Maybe ask your stylist if your hair would be manageable at a longer length?  It might be something that could really work.  It also could be awful.  That's the fresh perspective...

the fresh perspective...

Cold, colder, coldest.

We're practically flirting with her, trying not to let her win.  Trying not to let her win by wearing your light jacket or skipping out on a scarf/toque/gloves?  Pretending not to feel her when you go out first thing in the morning.  She's there, she's already waiting.

We play this game every year.  I know my part well.  It starts with denial.  I pretend she's not coming (I know she'll come, but I still play).  Then I say, "Not yet, I'm not ready for you yet.  Just wait!" (at this point, I know it's all for naught, but I still play).

Then before I know it, we're together and it feels like it'll never end.  It feels like an eternity when the snow falls and all the temperatures drop.  It feels so intense when you're standing there in her presence and you feel your warm parts slowly cooling off.  In that moment I feel the utmost respect for her and realize that she is very serious.

She is so serious she makes me reach for scarf/toque/gloves.  She makes we want to put on the thickest sweater and then curl into a blanket, next to a fire.  She makes we want to be close to others.  She makes me want hot, warm and comforting things.  She makes me love Christmas and winter wonderlands.

As much as we fight, we both need each other.  We need each other to play our parts properly.

That's the fresh perspective...

Change. It. Up.

As a hairstylist of 14 years I have tried a boatload of hairstyles.  Can't say I color my hair too often, but I do change the style almost on a daily basis.  I was looking through my computer and found some photo booth images of my hairs from past times.

How often do you change your hair?  When you look at images of yourself from the past, is your hair the same?  Do you never change your color?  If you are a healthy human being, your hair will grow.  If that is for certain, then why don't we push ourselves a little more to give something new a chance?  You might surprise yourself and enjoy it.

Maybe you don't change your cut/color, you can at least change your style.  Right?  A little curling iron action or  a bobby-pin detail?  Maybe a scarf or headband?    Hopefully my hair montage will inspire you...maybe not....

Peace

the fresh perspective...

DIVERSION

A few days ago I saw a product we carry in the salon, at my local Shopper's Drug Mart! What?!  Well, many salon grade products end up in discount stores and random retail outlets.  It happens.  What now?  I preach about how great it is to purchase your products from local suppliers (like us) and unfortunately the prices are sometimes higher.  Supporting a private small business over a conglomerate can be quite expensive.

I can understand why someone would purchase their salon grade products at Winners, or even Shopper's because the price is so right!  I was at Superstore on the weekend and found that a liter of TRESemmé was $3.98!  You serious?!  We sell smaller bottles of shampoo that cost over $25! I feel like we can't compete with prices like that but we can at least hang our hats on the fact that we know what we sell is good for you and your hair.

If you can find that salon grade product at Winners or your local discount spot, what can anyone say?  Do what you need to do.  That's the fresh perspective...

Giving Thanks

I am so very grateful for my life, my loves and the health that I have been given.  I am thankful for all of you followers that keep me writing and foraging for new things and ideas.  Happy Thanksgiving!!

Peace